Make sure you keep the conversation light hearted. Avoid asking serious questions, or going full blown Descartes on her ass:
And try to avoid personal questions. Any mention of ex’s or bringing up your life struggles are big red flags!
For example, rather than asking a girl what she does for work, instead spruce it up by playing the guessing game:
Role-playing is a great way to help your matches escape the mundanity of everyday life. If your match has a sense of humour, she’ll be eager to play along.
- Robbing a bank – you’re looking for an accomplice
- Getting married – you have the ring ready
- Meet the family / formal sit down dinner
Be the Challenge. Flip the Switch and Make HER Chase YOU
Give her a number of tests she must pass in order to be worthy of your time. She’ll start qualifying herself to you, like she’s needs to earn your approval.
Pay close attention to how she replies, and pick up on something she mentions as material for your next text.
Eg. If you ask her what her spirit animal is, and she replies with lion. Rather than jumping the gun and telling her what your spirit LonelyWifeHookups animal is, like in this text:
Instead, use ‘Lion’ as the subject of your next message to delve deeper into the conversation. Here are some examples of a good reply:
If the conversation is going well, it’s fast paced and you’re getting some clear signs she’s digging your advanced Tinder chat, it’s time to move to the final step…asking her out.
A rough time frame to benchmark for asking a girl out on Tinder should be less than 24 hours after you send the first message.
A lot depends on the situation of course. But ideally you close the deal (get her digits / ask her out) within 5-20 messages back and forth.
And it’s best to do this within ‘one session’. i.e send the first message at 6pm and have the date confirmed in the planner before you go to sleep that very same night.
When her interest peaks, no matter what you say or how you phrase the date text, she’ll be shouting YES down her phone!
But if you miss the peak and fail to ask her out, her interest level will quickly nose dive to zero.
And it works both ways. If you ask her out on a date too early, before her interest peaks, you risk scaring her off.
And to do this, you need to pick up on the cues she’s ready for you to pop the date question successfully.
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Signs Your Match is Ready to Say YES to a Date
Always assume the girl is into you. It’s better to be bullish on the date text rather than pussy footing around wondering whether or not she likes you, to then miss the boat altogether.
Even if you ask her out too early, the girl you’re messaging will appreciate the fact you have the balls to at least pop the question.
So now, all that’s left, is to spot the signs she’s comfortable enough with the idea of meeting up with you.
She’s Laughing, LOL’ing, and Partaking in the Banter
If you’re making her smile, laugh, and reply back positively, these are all massive green flags. Especially if she throws in some jokes and banter herself.
If you find yourself doing all the leg work – asking questions, putting effort into composing witty replies…and she gives you nothing to work with – she doesn’t ask questions back, or simply replies with just ‘LOL’ or ‘Haha’.